A few years ago, there was a study that says having 3 kids is the hardest while having 4 kids seems to be easiest. And now, another study suggests that having more kids is beneficial to moms too! A study by Simon Fraser University researchers suggests that the more children a woman has, the slower she ages.
Is it really true? I can hear screams of NO WAY from moms who has only 1 child and those who have 2 or 3. Moms who have 4 or 5 kids, what can you say? From my own experience, I think there is a truth to that study. I can honestly say that I am my prettiest and most relaxed phase now that I am a mom of 5? What is it? Is it the experience? Or am I just more responsible now or more matured? I think there’s a lot of factors and here are the 3 biggest reasons why.
3 Reasons Why Having More Kids Is Easier
EXPERIENCE. I guess that should be our number 1. Nothing beats that. Child #1 is easy to handle when sick. Child #2 is SUPER HARD to handle when sick, just the sight of the medicine dropper makes him/her more sick. And then comes child #3 who needs ER overtime, just a rashes, go to ER. Just a bite, go to ER. And then there’s child #4 and you already know what to do. Having child #4 or more feels like having a PHD in motherhood. Somehow, you just know what to do, whatever it is. No more panic, but just a series of steps that you can perform even if you are sleeping.
LESS PRESSURE. When I only have 2 kids, I feel like I need to be the best mom possible. I started teaching them as early as 6 months old, made sure that they are potty trained before 3. I even tried homeschooling. And when they’re already in school, I made sure to tutor them after school, make mock exams for them and tried the be what I think is the best mom for them. Now that I have more kids, I just feel like the pressure to be the best mom is less and that all I need to do is just be a mom to them. I become more relaxed as a mom.
Now that I have 5 kids, I no longer tutor my older kids, my youngest who just turned 3 is still not potty trained. But it’s OK, I still feel good as a mom.
MORE ME TIME. When you have only 1 child, it seems like you need to focus your 100% to them. All you do is for your child. Then another one came and the struggle becomes real. How do you divide yourself to two kids? You just made it, and you try hard to give 100% each for the kids. And then it became 3, and that’s. It’s chaos everywhere, there is just not enough of you to give to your kids. And then it became 4 and you realized that you can’t really give 100% each to your kids but just give the best version of you to them. That’s the time you realized how important it is to take care of yourself too.
That’s what happened to me. When I had more kids, I realized that in order to survive, I also need to take care of myself. Having more kids is not actually having less time for me.