When I first learned about my pregnancy for my first born, I was really happy.. but of course, a very big part of me was worried.. I am not sure how it is to be a parent. I read books, lot of books and in the end I learned that parenting is a never ending learning process. Parenting differs from one parent to another and though I already have four kids I know I still have a lot more to learn. I will share with you some of thine things that I learned along the way:
For first time parents, getting advice from your parents will be your best ally but in the end, what your child needs should still be your guide. You have to remember that every child is different, every technique is different.. Do not be influence with what people says. Take their advice, learn from it but don’t live for it.
Having another child can be difficult at times, you will be dealing with jealousy and siblings rivalry. You cannot prevent petty quarrels but you prevent jealousy. Start right by educating your first born about the incoming baby and from there work it out for them to love each other.
Having a lot of kids (more than 2) is a lot harder.. there is too much that needs your attention and admit it or not, it is really hard to manage time, and spending the same number of hours with each kid.. the best advise I got is to date my kids, spend a time for each, take them out and make them special.
Lastly, parenting involves your partner too.. both of you should practice or agree on the same technique, the kids will know if you do not agree and will use it to their advantage 🙂
Never underestimate your kid’s capacity to manipulate you, they’re very good on that and of course never forget to let your kids know how much you love.. I believe that’s the most effective parenting style 🙂
Lisa says
October 3, 2011 at 3:50 amI’m a new mom at nag-iisa lang ang baby ko. Not sure, if masundan pa ito. Kahapon parang bigla akong nagising and asked myself, what if palagi na lang siyang iiyak dahil ito ang gusto niya except kung hungry siya. He’s more than 6 months but I want to say no kaya napalo ko. I regret it. But, I don’t know if it’s the proper way kasi baby pa siya. 🙁 Need advice please. Thanks. 🙂
Mylene M. Calleja says
October 3, 2011 at 7:15 amNice advice Mommy, I can’t imagine how you manage your four kids, I only have two but I still having a hard time dealing to both of them eventhough their age gap was too far to imagine, a 13 year old boy and a 3 year old girl or maybe the gap between them is the main reason why they always have petty quarrels and my eldest is still immature to handle his sister.
zoan says
October 3, 2011 at 10:29 amohhh I need to check my parenting skills.. because my son is manipulating me, as in…
Badet says
October 3, 2011 at 10:35 amI agree! Even a baby knows how to get what she wants. Naku konting iyak lang ni baby, karga na kaya ayun nasanay.
Anna.Ville says
October 3, 2011 at 1:12 pmso true, parenting is a never ending learning experience…lalo na nga siguro pag mas marami ang kids because they have their own personalities that needs to be dealt with indiviually.
care to check my parenting tip?
Chris says
October 3, 2011 at 4:14 pmit is important to let our kids know that we love them… and know their love language. most of the time, we have different ways of expressing love and we can misunderstand each other if we dont know what is the love language of each child.
thanks for joining this week!
LOURDES ESPANOL says
October 4, 2011 at 10:50 amWhen my nephew wants me to buy him a toy and I don’t have money, I just tell him that I’ll buy a really special toy for him on Christmas.
Jenny So says
October 5, 2011 at 4:19 pmThanks for the advices and tips! 🙂
Lyza says
October 7, 2011 at 8:16 amBeing a mom is the greatest thing that happened to me. Having Matt as our only child, people think that we spoil him, but the truth is NO. Of course, we just try to give him what he need and wants (lol!) but hangga’t kaya lang namin, and I’m glad my son’s used with that principle…:)
Can C Eye Drops for Cataracts says
October 7, 2011 at 4:04 pmHello Pehpot,
I never underestimate kids because i know they are more smart then us…
Ane says
October 7, 2011 at 11:09 pmWhen I had my first child, I relied on my instincts, did a lot of reading and learned from other parents.. 🙂
these are great tips, I hate it when my 3 year old manipulates me, sometimes he gets away with it because he’s cute, just wait when he’s 4, and it’s off to the wall more often, if he’s naughty.. 😛
ELINOR SEMIRA says
October 8, 2011 at 12:26 pmWhen I knew that I was pregnant, I am very excited but nervous at the same time because I don’t know if I am going to raise my baby well or will I be a good mother to her. That’s what going through my head during that time.
giay says
October 13, 2011 at 8:06 pmParenting has its ups and downs especially when dealing with your kids discipline. I consider myself a single parent ‘coz hubby is OFW. What I instill to my child is that I am the mommy and he needs to follow what mommy’s telling him because it is the right thing to do. Whatever mommy says will make him better therefore “follow mommy”. We always agreed on that.
Karen says
October 30, 2011 at 6:40 amMy kids have wider age gap and I’m happy because my eldest can understand now that I need to give more time to his baby sister. However there were times that I can’t refuse my eldest wish sa takot na magtampo sa sister niya.