Parenting Archive

My thoughts on parenthood, and what it's like to be a mom in the Philippines.

Mommy Moments- A Message Of Love

I cannot express how much love I have with my four kids.. I take this entry from my last year’s.. oh my it has been a year since I joined this wonderful meme!

Kayil,
you are such a blessing to Mommy, you came at the right time to Mommy’s life. You give me strength, you give me love, you made me feel human. When I am feeling lonely, a look into your eyes wipes it all. Mommy maybe not be around at times, but Mommy is always thinking of you. Mommy maybe harsh sometimes but I just want you to grow up strong, remember you will be the one to protect your baby brothers. I love you so much my baby. Forever you will be my inspiration, my light at the end of the tunnel. (Vday 2009)

I am very proud of you as I always have. You have come a long way and though you’re still a cry baby at times, I can see that you are growing more responsible than ever. Mommy will always be here for you and we love you so much.. you will be forever my pillar of strength and happiness.

Mico,
I knew how hard it is when things get frustrating, Mommy understands your temper and your feelings. I love it baby when you say to Mommy how you love me so much and that you will always love me. I love it when you question my love for you. Remember Mico that I love you till and so much even if Mommy seems not to prepare your milk at your request. I never imagine that I could pour out emotion such as that. When you were born I was afraid that Mommy cannot love you as with Kuya. The first time I saw you, I am really amazed how strong I feel for you. I love you baby, I love you so much. Mommy will understand you and will try to fix everything for you. (Vday 2009)

My Baby Dico.. you seem to grow more as the day passes but in your heart you still want to be Mommy’s baby, yes dear, you are my baby dico. We love it when you do your baby thing and we love you more when you tell me how much we are to you. Please stay as sweet as a baby.

Chico,
my baby bunso, your our angel and delight. You know kuya and Dico and Daddy and Mommy is always excited for you. When we wake up the first we want to see is your mischievous smile. You light up our day and we just can’t get enough of you. We love you dear and I know you already knew that by now (you love hearing Mommy say it). I hope you will grow as loving and playful as your older brothers. (Vday 2009)

You’re our baby bunso still, our baby boy bunso. We still can;t get enough of you, we love how you smile, how you make us go gaga with your antics. I love how you dance in any tune and of course, you know by the that Mommy loves you more than my pagerank.. so don’t get mad at the pc, alright? High Five!

Sati,
I am the luckiest mom on Earth, having you and your Kuyas. Did you know that I wanted you so badly that when I learned about you, I cried so hard. And until now as I write this, my heart swells with so much emotion. I am so grateful, no, ecstatic, not still.. I don’t know what good deed I do to deserve you. You made my life complete. You brought so much joy to me, to kuya, dico, sanco, to daddy and to everyone around us. You gave the marce club the reason to exist. Every time I see you, I am so gigil. You are so adorable (wish I have a flip to share to the world how adorable you are). Every day, I thank God for giving you to us. And please forgive me if I will spoil you. Can i just say once again that you made my life complete. Now I have no other desire but to see you and your kuyas grow happy and contented. You are the missing piece in my life. And for sure tomorrow, I will say again that you complete me, I can never get tired saying those phrase.

with so much love,
Mommy

My Future

Whenever I see senior citizens still working their A off, it breaks my heart. I think of my mom and promised myself I will never allow that to happen to her. Then I think of me and my hubby. Will me kids let us on the road? begging for food or working so that we can eat?

Maybe not but still one can never be too sure. And I don’t have any plans on asking my kids to help me. I never like the idea that the old generation instilled in us. You know what they say about having a lot of kids, of being assured that when you grow older, your kids will take care of you. Whenever someone told me about it, I always answer back that I did not give birth for a caregiver. I want to have kids because I now I am capable of nurturing another life not because I expect my kids to nurture me when I am old.

My mom shares the same sentiment (but sometimes it hurts to hear it from her), she always said that she does not expect us to take care of her when she’s old. Although at times, she would tease my OCness and ask what if she’s old and can no longer clean up her mess. To which, I will jokingly tell her, I’ll just kick you on the butt. (don’t be offended as me and my mom talks like that, we believe that comedy can make us young haha).

Ah yes, my future.. hmm.. we’ll see later. I bet on the Lotto today. hihi.. and yes if I ever I win, I will treat the Marce Club haha

How To Stop Nail Biting

The older boys had developed a hobby, nail biting hobby! It’s not out of stress or nervousness, just plain hobby. They would bite nails while watching the TV, would bite nails while running around. Every time they have a free finger, they would bite on it. I am really concerned because I can’t stand their fingers, it is as if the nails are slowly fading. I can’t take it! I tried controlling them. I even threatened them that I will cut off their fingers since they love snacking on it, might as well serve it to them. It was a joke of course and it did not worked.

I researched on the net on ways to stop nail biting. I was not successful on finding ways to stop it but I found an article that somewhat erased my worries. Article from Babycenter shed some light into me.

What to do about nail biting:

Address her anxieties
Don’t nag or punish
Help her when she wants to stop
Talk about breaking habits
Help her become aware of the habit

When to worry about nail biting
In rare cases, severe nail biting can signal excessive anxiety. Consult your child’s doctor if she’s biting her nails so intently that her fingertips are sore or bloody, if her nail biting is accompanied by other worrisome behaviors, such as picking at her skin or pulling her eyelashes or hair out, or if her sleep patterns have altered considerably. In these cases, professional counseling may help

Now I know what to do to my two boys. Thanks a lot babycenter!