Don’t be fair to your kids. That is one thing that my mother taught us. Do not treat your kids in a way that you treat them all in the same manner. Kids are very unique from each other. They each need special care and attention. I never believed in the idea of treating the kids fair. In fact when you treat you kids fairly, you are actually being unfair to them. Picture this out, will you treat your five year old clingy daughter the same you would to your 3 year old independent son? Of course not, right?
Kids have different needs. Just like my three boys. When I had my second son, I ignore him most of the time. I tend to give more time to my first born. He is very clingy while my second son is very independent. And no, it never affects their relationship. I am very proud to say that the boys really love each other.
So, how can you treat your kids fair without being unfair? We live to this principle: To each according to his needs and from each according to his capacity. Easy to comprehend guys. You should never expect something from your kids when you know they cannot do it. Give them what they need and what you think is fair to both party. If the other one needs love more than the other, then gladly give it to him.
Life is not fair after all.
StaceyC4 says
August 26, 2009 at 12:18 pmI have to let me teenager read that one. He always complains how unfair it is that we don't treat him and his brother exactly the same!
Dinah says
August 27, 2009 at 6:54 amThis is so true pehpot! Each one of our kids is unique and we have to treat them differently. My second son is the more sensitive one while the youngest, a girl is tougher. So I am sweeter to my second son, but my daughter knows I don't love her any less.
redamethyst says
March 17, 2010 at 2:23 amyou are right, the kids have their own needs.
redamethyst says
March 17, 2010 at 2:26 amthis will be helpful for me once nagkaroon na ng kapatid si jj. heheh. thanks
Sherry says
March 17, 2010 at 5:10 amsis so happy your boys love each other, they dont fight for it. my friend boys always fight and shout at each other.
Sherry says
March 17, 2010 at 5:10 amoh.. yeah they are each unique so cannot treat the same way. good guide for me to learn. 😀
Sherry says
March 17, 2010 at 5:12 amsis… I learn so much from you. 😀
Sherry says
March 17, 2010 at 5:12 amwhat do you do if they want the same toy and refuse to share? how to make them share and play… hehe.. easy say but hard do.
Jenny So says
October 25, 2011 at 4:32 amI am 100% agree with you. 😀