Parenting Archive

My thoughts on parenthood, and what it's like to be a mom in the Philippines.

What Kind Of Parent Are You? Crunchy or Silky?

In my blog hopping activity, I encountered these two words: crunchy and silky. Well, these two words are the big thing when it comes to parenting styles. There are 4 styles of parenting; Authoritarian Parenting, Authoritative Parenting, Permissive Parenting, Uninvolved Parenting and you can read more about it HERE. And based on that link, I would like to believe that my parenting style is Authoritative Parenting:

Like authoritarian parents, those with an authoritative parenting style establish rules and guidelines that their children are expected to follow. However, this parenting style is much more democratic. Authoritative parents are responsive to their children and willing to listen to questions. When children fail to meet the expectations, these parents are more nurturing and forgiving rather than punishing. Baumrind suggests that these parents “monitor and impart clear standards for their children’s conduct. They are assertive, but not intrusive and restrictive. Their disciplinary methods are supportive, rather than punitive. They want their children to be assertive as well as socially responsible, and self-regulated as well as cooperative” (1991).

So where does being a crunchy or silky parent falls? Er, honestly, I have no idea! Well, based on this QUIZ, I am 70% silky, does it make make me a better mom? or a bad mom?

And still based on that quiz and this one, here’s my conclusion on what crunchy and silky parenting are:

I am a little crunchy because I breastfed my kids, actually still breastfeeding my youngest. We co-sleep and I baby wear. I think the result is very accurate, yes, I am more of a silky mom. I can’t leave the house without makeup! hahaha and I can’t live without disposable diapers. Another thing, I can’t live without contraceptives, because if I don’t use one, I’ll end having more kids than I can handle. We’re too compatible that even a touch from husband will make me pregnant! wahaha In all honesty, I do have high respect for people who were able to maintain being crunchy, that takes a lot time! And I have high respect for people who are silky mom like me. At the end of the day, it doesn’t really matter at all, crunchy and silky are just labels. In the end, it’s all about you and how happy and contented you are as a mom, of course happiness and contentment of your kids follows.

But I know, it’s fun to see what kind of mom you are no? So go ahead take the quiz but never let that label define you 🙂 Crunchy or Silky, I am sure, for your kids, you’re the BEST MOM in the world. Cheers to us all moms!

One Happy Weekend At Costa Villa, La Union

He said he needs to unwind, to relax.. and there’s only one place that relaxes him.. La Union..

So, one Saturday morning, we packed our bags and head North..

The road was not easy.. we had a few stops along the way (first, to replace/ repair the radiator and second, to repair the transmission) so our plan of resort hopping before checking in didn’t push through. Good thing, a few weeks before that impromptu vacay, I already asked Costa Villa if they have a vacant room for some dates (na foresee ko na ang lakad na ito haha) and luckily, there is a room available on that weekend.

Why Costa Villa? Out of all the resorts in Urbiztondo, La Union (surfing area in San Juan), it is the only one with cooking facilities (except for Kahuna, which is like waaah too expensive!).. and I already booked some rooms for the Holy Week.

I was a bit disappointed (kaunting kaunti lang naman) with the place. It was smaller than I expected, looks more like an apartelle than a resort (and a bit not beach front, I will explain later). Accommodation wise and the size of the rooms, I am more than pleased.

Costa VIlla Beach Resort — Costa Villa Beach Resort Facade

This is the facade of the resort and that’s all. That’s why I told you it looks more like an apartelle than a resort. There is a reception area but really small.. I was imagining it to have a big reception area at the back of these rooms.. sadly it has none. The pool is small too but I see it as an advantage on my part. I don’t have to worry that much! hahaha

The first photo is the front of the resort, road in front of that, the road takes a turn and the point where it takes the turn is where the way to the beach is.. argh ang hirap i explain.. basta hindi sya ganun ka beach front.. gets? Beach front sya.. pero hindi ganun ka- front, gets nyo ba? teka nga makahanap ng mapa haha

o ayan na map, gets nyo na ba ako? hehe

No question about the beach.. San Juan beach is the best!

Costa Villa is just a few meters (around 500) from the surfing area (where Kahuna, Little Surfmaid, San Juan Surf is located). That’s one of the things I liked about Costa Villa, secluded in a way that the shore is almost empty.. and yet you are near to the surfing area (which can be very crowded, specially during Holy Week).

For that weekend, we got a family room (good for 6) with cooking facilities (3k+ higher during Holy Week). There was 3 queen size bed on the room, a small dinning table attached to the wall. The kitchen was complete.. as in pati kutsara at tinidor meron.. major plus points yan!

We had fun during our stay at Costa Villa and I don’t regret that I booked 4 rooms for the Holy Week (2 apartelle and 2 family room). Kase naman, the hotel staff and the owners are very accommodating… and they’re not strict on the number of people staying on the room (malamang ito maging suki namin every Holy Week)..sana lang they would extend pa so there would be a bigger holding/ reception area.

During our stay pala I took a photo of the apartelle (two story, one bedroom):

Costa Villa Beach Resort Apartelle (1st floor)

Wala pala akong picture nung 2nd floor, but it’s a big room with one king sized bed and mattress (I think it can accommodate more than 5 people, baka nga kasya pa ang sampu eh)

Look how happy ang mga bagets:

And yes, excited sila lahat bumalik sa Costa Villa.. me too!

Frozen Inspired Birthday Party

Let it go.. let it go.. let it go….

OK I am letting it go.. my excitement is killing me every minute.. and to ease down a bit, I am sharing with you some Frozen inspired birthday party ideas playing on my excited mind right now.

It’s just a small party, some 40 or less kids to satisfy.. and I still have 3 weeks to prepare for it 🙂 Don’t you just love Pinterest? It’s a great place to look for Frozen inspired party ideas and a great place to put all the ideas together.. umm. hello Pinterest Board!

Follow my boards OK? hihi

Let’s start with the cake.. I already have an idea of how 2nd born’s Frozen inspired cake will look like.. either I ask my favorite baker to create it or challenge myself to make it real..uh oh I love challenges! Remember the scene where Olaf swims in a bath tub? We’ll start from there.. but if you want to recreate that scene, here’s a cake for you: