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How To Handle Toddler Tantrums

How To Handle Toddler Tantrums? But first, you need to know that Tantrums for toddlers is OK. It’s how they express their frustrations over something, specially for toddlers who have a hard time speaking. Sometimes we think it is our fault or that they are doing it to stress us out. I must tell you that they don’t. They are not showing tantrums to intentionally hurt us. It’s a natural reaction for their age.

How to handle a tantrums? here’s a video of our baby showing tantrums and how I handled it:

How To Handle Toddler Tantrums

How To Handle Toddler Tantrums: 5 Simple Ways:

1. Keep a cool head. That’s number 1 rule. Do not over think and over analyze the situation. You have to know that your toddler does not know how tired you are to listen to you right away. Learn to keep cool and listen to what he or she is trying to say.

2. Give him a choice or distract him

Here is an example about giving them a choice: a toddler who does not want to take a bath, ask them if they want to play after taking a bath or before taking a bath. In that case, they would that you are not forcing them but is giving them a choice.

Do not ask why he is crying. At the height of their emotions, sometimes they even forgot the very reason whey it all started. Instead of asking them why they are crying or asking them to stop crying, distract them. Ask them a few questions that interests them.

3. Do not punish and this is most important during the time the toddler is showing tantrums. As mentioned, a toddler tantrums is very natural and it is something that cannot be controlled by the toddler itself. Do not punish the child for something that he cannot control.

How to prevent toddler tantrums?

Is there really a way to prevent a tantrums before it even happen? There are some ways if you would just open your eyes and try to understand your toddler’s needs. Ask yourself too what makes you unhappy sometimes? Some of the basics that may lead to frustration are hunger and tiredness.

Kids are very prone to throwing tantrums when they are hungry or tired and when both are present, you would expect a cry marathon. Work on a schedule to balance their 3 basic needs, food, rest, and sleep.

Toddler Tantrums: When To Worry

Toddler tantrums but is there a time to worry? Actually, there are cases that a tantrum is no longer normal and needs professional intervention. Here are some signs on when to worry:

Self injury. There are times that the child would attempt themselves but if this is happening more often when they show tantrums, you might want to brought this up with your pedia.
Hurting the mom or the caregiver. Although it happens sometimes, specially when they want something that you won’t give, it is a red flag if it is happening 90% of the time.
Very often and long tantrums. Tantrums usually last for 5-10 minutes but if it lasts 30 minutes and up and is always the case, that’s a red flag too. A child may cry out for an hour but the next tantrums usually last for just 5 minutes. If your child usual tantrums lasts for more than 30 minutes most of the times, discuss it with your pedia so they can refer you to a child psychologist.

More red flags can be are posted at WebMD.

Do Not Let The Baby Cry- 5 Disadvantages Of Letting The Baby Cry

When I first had a baby, a lot of people mentioned that I should let it cry, specially in the mornings. Crying is good for the lungs according to old wives’ tale. After 3 kids, I’ve learned my lesson well. Lungs and crying may be connected but the disadvantage outweighs the benefits. Also, there are other ways to make your baby’s lungs stronger other than crying.

The old saying goes that when you don’t let the baby cry, they will grow up to be a spoiled baby. It can be true specially if you always give in to what the baby wants. But you pacify them without giving what they want. You can talk them as they cry giving them the solution for what seems to be the problem. Or you can carry them as they cry while you try to explain why it is not OK to eat chocolates at night. Or you can just hug them, for us, I find giving my breast seems to work all the time.

Here are 5 reasons why you should not let your baby cry:

Letting the baby cry can lead to a frustrated kid. Letting the baby cry can be very traumatizing to your kid. They maybe a baby but their emotional needs as as big as those of the adults, even bigger actually. And they don’t fully understand what frustrations is all about. How to handle it and what needs to be done to make them feel better. Letting them cry just worsens the situation. It can lead to them being frustrated all the time. Instead of letting them cry, show them how to deal with their frustrations. Is it about the car that won’t start, show them how it works. Give them a solution and not a cold face.

Letting the baby cry can be be damaging to the developing brains of the baby. Neurobiologists say high levels of stress hormone cortisol are ‘toxic’ to the developing brain, according to Penelope Leach.

Letting the baby cry alters the mood of the parents. Admit it moms, crying baby is the worst thing to hear any day. It can easily change your mood into a grumpy old woman. Why the need to lengthen that stage? It eats you up right? The things you need to do but the baby is crying at the background. Stop whatever you are doing and fetch your baby. The human touch can make your baby feel better and yours too.

Letting the baby can also affect older siblings. The frustrations from the baby’s cry is reverberate around the house. This can be felt that just by the baby but almost everyone inside the house. If you have older kids, crying baby can affect their moods, their study habits and at night can also affect their sleep.

Letting the baby cry can lead to baby having low self esteem and trust issues. Trust me on this one. This is from my own experience. I let my 3rd son cry when he was a year old. Thinking all the theories about letting the baby cry correct. I was thinking he would learn how to pacify himself and that he would be more independent. The opposite happened, he was the clingiest amongst all my kids. He was so shy when he was in pre school and he cries a lot. He also have trust issues back then and though we were able to correct it, still it is manifested from time to time. Up to this day, I feel guilty because I let him cry when he was a baby. So moms, I am appealing all to you, DO NOT LET YOUR BABY CRY!

My Kid Is Bullied In School, What Should I Do?

My Kid Is Bullied In School, What Should I Do? You wreak havoc! NOBODY TOUCHES MY KID! Seriously though, the first thing you need to do is to stay calm.

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STAY CALM. Your kid is experiencing a lot of emotions due to bullying, the least you can do is add up to this. And kids tend to become silent when they see their parents reacting overly. It is not that they are afraid of you, they just love you so much that they don’t want to displease you. Kids will always be your fan and will always want to make you happy and not sad or mad.

Be calm and ask a few questions. Ask for details but do not pressure your kid. DO NOT SHOUT. DO NOT OVERACT. Assure your kid, ask them what they want to do. Never commit the mistake of blaming your kid. Assure them that you are with them and you support them whatever they want to do.

My Kid Is Bullied In School, What Should I Do?

REPORT THE INCIDENT. Report the incident to the adviser of your kid. You can go to school and talk to them in person or you can write them a letter. You can also write a letter to the principal or to the prefect of discipline.

I prefer writing straight to the prefect of discipline specially when the incident is serious like physical injury. My intention is not to bypass the teacher but I just want to speed up the process.

How to write an incident report? Here’s a sample letter of complaint bullying at school:

If you don’t want a meeting with the parents of the child, here’s another sample letter of complaint bullying at school asking just for the report:

TALK TO YOUR KID. Ask your kid how the investigation went. Ask your kid how it feels, is he/she OK with the way the investigation was conducted. Does she/he feel safer now? Also encourage your kid to speak when this happens again. Tell her/him that she can always count on you.

FOLLOW UP THE SCHOOL. If the school is really doing their job, you will get a feedback within the day. If you did not get a feedback within the day, follow-up the following day. Bullying is a very serious matter and if the school has an anti bullying policy, the matter should be their top priority.

My Kid Is Bullied In School, What Should I Do? Some bullying scenarios that is worth mentioning:

What if the parents of the child does not want to talk to you? Ask for a report from the school that you requested a meeting with the parents but the parents refused.

What if the teacher is the one bullying the student? You write a letter addressed to the principal and you hand it personally.

What if bullying happens inside the school bus? Write a letter to prefect of discipline or guidance councilor and clearly describe what happened.

If your child is bullied, let the school handle the situation and always stay calm.