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Mommy Moments- Tanturms!!

So you thought I can do a week without posting my MM entry? as much as possible I don’t want to miss a week. Theme for this week is tantrums!!

Two days ago (and until now) , I been having contractions and I thought I will give birth to Sati before Friday, but it was all false alarm. I plan on putting up her first tantrums for this week but it seems, Sati is not a willing victim.

So for now, this will do. This is taken last October 10 (my sister’s wedding). See how Chico is throwing a feat, typical brat..

Just wanna share this (source)

Don’t try to argue or remonstrate with the child. While the tantrum lasts, she is beyond reason.

Don’t scream back if you can possibly help it. Anger is very infectious and you may well find yourself becoming angrier with every yell she utters. Try not to join in. If you do, you are likely to prolong the outburst because just as the toddler was about to calm down, she will become aware of your angry voice and it will start her off again.

Don’t let the child feel rewarded or punished for a tantrum. You want her to see that tantrums, which are horrible for her, change nothing, either for or against her. If she threw the tantrum because you would not let her go out into the garden, don’t change your mind and let her out now. Equally, if you had been going to take her for a walk before she had the tantrum, you should take her all the same, as soon as she is calm again.

Don’t let tantrums embarrass you into kid-glove handling. Many parents dread tantrums in public places but you must not let your toddler sense your concern. If you are reluctant to take her into the corner shop in case she throws a tantrum for sweets, or if you treat her with saccharin sweetness whenever visitors are present in case ordinary handling should provoke an outburst, she will soon realize what is going on. Once your toddler realises that her genuinely uncontrollable tantrums are having an effect on your behaviour towards her, she is bound to learn to use them and to work herself up into the semi-deliberate tantrums which are typical of inappropriately handled four-year-olds.

To know more about how to handle Tantrums, click here

Mahat’s Birthday

Yes, he wants to be called Mahat now instead of Kayil. If you are wondering, his real name is MIkhail Mahat. I guess his classmates find it easier to say Mahat than Mikhail. His birthday is on October 24 but I decided to hold his small party yesterday. It was crazy and I was dead tired. I think I might give birth sooner due to exhaustion on yesterday’s party. We prepared the usual, spaghetti and hot dog on stick for the kids and penne pasta on spaghetti sauce for the oldies or the mommies. It was fun and I was glad that his teacher and some mommies helped me out to make a fun program for the kids. We had games and giveaways. Oh well, according to Mahat, it was a BEST PARTY!! yay!

Party aside, I think my second born is still traumatized by the flood. Actually even me and the mommies I know and even the teachers in the school. For two nights now, heavy rains made our nights longer. We can’t sleep! Only last night that Mico was still awake when it started to rain. He cried and screamed, he was really afraid that it will flood again. Haaay.. what can I do when in fact I was worried too..

Mommy Moments: Special Trip

This week’s theme for Mommy Moments is special trip. As a family, it really is important to take the kids out once in a while. It is a great way to bond with the kids. Taking a time out from the usual routine is also a great way to bond with your partner. My husband and I make it a point to treat the kids with out of town trips. The latest we had was a trip in Baguio last March.

This was in Mine’s view and one of the few photos where we posed as a family. Hopefully when Sati is here we already have our car (and hopefully it is a bigger one!!!).