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How To Keep Your Man Happy

Being married for 10 years and being with him for 13 years, I have learned to accept things that I cannot change and learned to deal with him. And yes, after 10 years (which he jokingly said, sampung taong pagtitiis! haha) he already knows how to deal with my temper, my OCD and had developed a huge amount of patience (nyahahaha). It was not as smooth sailing as this a few years back.. it was a rough journey but thank goodness we both hold on to each other.

In our 10 years of being married, I also learned when to shut up and how to be a wife while being a mother. Admit it moms, we have the tendency to take for granted our role as a wife as soon as we became a mom. Who’s to blame? those tiny hands and heartwarming giggles needs our time and affection more than the man of the house who is big enough to feed himself.. ummm quite right but does not work all the time.

Our husband needs us as much as our kids do.. and that goes from picking what shirt he would wear to picking up his shoes when he went home.. OK that’s an exaggeration (to some.. but normal here in my house LOL) but you get me, right?

My husband is a great provider, he works full time and gives us everything we need.. and he’s a very good spoiler! From toys to my whims (ehehe).. The only way I can thank him for being the best husband and daddy is to always make sure that he is happy.

And here are some ways that I do keep my man happy.

Feed him well. His mother and lola cooks very well and it was a challenge for me during our first few years of marriage. I know nothing in the kitchen department. I endure a lot of criticizing from him. He’d ask me how long I cooked the food, how high or how low the heat is, how I chopped the onions etc.. and when that’s how I learned how to cook. Now, even my friends, compliments my food, ayayay (buhatan ng bangko no hahaha). Feed him well by cooking his favorite dishes. Make sure that you know what kind of foods he prefers. Does he like eating breakfast? Does he like breads or pasta over rice (my husband is a rice lover. Does he likes coffee? My husband loves coffee and he usually ask for coffee 3 times every morning. And I always make sure that there’s a cup of coffee waiting for him when he wakes up. He loves eating Pinoy dishes like Kare-kare, mechado, beef stew and the likes so I learned how to prepare those dishes (well except for Mechado). And there were dishes that he likes but I am not fond of cooking.. but I still do cook those, just to make him happy.

Keep him healthy. Aside from feeding him well, I always make sure that he is healthy and have enough energy for the kids. And with four kids excitedly waiting for him, he really needs ENERGY. I rely with Enervon in keeping him healthy and energized as Enervon is a multivitamins that helps adults ensure optimum energy and increased body resistance against common sicknesses. Its combination of B-Complex Vitamins help optimize food into energy, while Vitamin C aids your body’s natural defense.

And he really needs to be healthy and be protected from sickness, josme, kumusta ang kabuhayan pag nagkasakit ang padre de pamilya?

Intimacy Level 100! (may exclamation point talaga no) I think this department is one of the most important in making your man happy. Be as naughty as he wants you to. Explore ladies.. read and research! Huwag ninyong ipagdamot ang katawan nyo sa asawa no.. Make time for him. Date him, go find a nice motel and spend the night with him. I admit it, it’s hard talaga, specially if you have kids.. eh lalo na kame, we have four! So just imagine.. sa gitna ng kasiyahan, may magigising, pag nakatulog na, magigising naman ang isa.. tapos iyong isa naman… tapos iyong isa pa.. by the time na napatulog na silang lahat, waley na.. wala ng gana..

Of course we find ways.. dapat creative! and also our intimacy does not ends from love making. We have ways to make each other feel special. We do “special talk” online or offline. And on my part, I always make sure that I am sexyyah! yihaaay!

Let him be a kid. And yes, after all those intimacy talks, husband is still a kid at heart. So I let him be one. Allowing him to buy his own toys and be childish from time to time. Trust me, if you allow him to buy his stuff, he’d allow you to buy your stuff too (shopping! shopping!)

Lastly, let him be the boss… uh let me rephrase that.. let him THINK he is the boss. Don’t argue with him, say yes if it is agreeable and say OK if it’s not agreeable to you. Men knows the difference between a yes and an OK hahaha

Do you have something to add? Share with us how you keep your man happy!

Summer Thinspiration

And after two beach getaways.. ngayon lang ako nagka summer thinspiration! Late bloomer! Well, if I hadn’t bought these two cute dresses, I wouldn’t’ be inspired..

Well.. these dresses fits me.. but I look like I’m 5 month old pregnant.. ugh! My goal is to be able to wear these without looking like a hippo ehehehe and that should happen before our grand getaway this May!!! ayayay! a month for my weight! Good Luck!

Chico’s Diet Shift And How We Overcome It

There was a time when my two older boys would eat nothing but their favorite meals.. sinigang na hipon for my oldest and corned beef for my second. A few months after, they were back on track eating healthier food, vegetables, fruits and the likes. I think it was just a phase and thank goodness, my two older boys went through that phase without me worrying that much.

The story is different with my 3rd boy.. well you know, we had a situation before where I almost neglect him..it was kinda hard dealing with him, specially with eating.. since bumabawi ako sa kanya sa lahat ng pagkukulang ko, I have this tendency to give him what he wants.. There was a time when he’d prefer eating donut over meals o minsan naman mas gusto pa nya ang popcorn kesa kumain ng kanin..it was a hard phase.

Later on, I learned that this kind of phase is normal to kids ages four to seven years old.. it’s called the “diet shift” phase, where they develop a preference for unhealthy food and therefore, becomes at-risk of important nutrients he needs for proper growth and development. Obviously, my two older boys went through this phase too.

Medyo madugo with my 3rd son.. ang hirap niya iplease! But now, he’s better in the eating department.. through a series of experiments and close observations, I was able to handle him better. For one, I noticed that he eats a lot when our ulam is soup based or if the dish has a lot of sauce. So, I started preparing dishes that he would like, sinigang, kare-kare, menudo, and anything with sauce. Little by little, he learned to love eating more.. and though he still loves eating donut, he knows now that he can only eat those after eating his meal.

he even eats like his dad! how a true blood novo ecijano eats!

I know a lot of moms have a hard time battling this phase, here are some practical tips on how to overcome diet shift:

Know your kids, just like what I did, observe and observe. Take note of the healthy food that he likes and from there work your magic
Always make sure that you eat with your child. It will encourage him to eat better since he can see you eating, but make sure that what you are eating is healthy. This was effective with my third born, he would sit beside his dad and eat whatever his dad eats, hence he now prefers Filipino dishes (it’s daddy’s favorite!)
If your child does not like vegetables, slowly incorporate veggies on his food.. like a fried rice with a few carrots, spaghetti with more veggies.. just make sure that he won’t see the veggies.. minced everything if you can.
Establish a routine in terms of eating, do not commit the mistake of giving them snacks before meal time. Make sure that there is time for meals and time for snacks.
In terms of snacks, ask them to prepare it with you, give them healthier options like sandwich instead of chips.

Another thing that helped me overcome my 3rd son’s diet shift is the fact that his older brothers eat healthier food.. aside from his dad, he have his two kuyas to look up to in terms of eating.